The aim of this article is to discuss implications of the loving relationship when it is or not visible and shared by the loving partners, in a free and spontaneous way, with all the social groups they belong to, or they socialize with. The love life stories of three women from the city of São Paulo, collected through interviews, make up the corpus of the research. The approach is qualitative and it fits into the comprehensive focus. The revelation of the existence of the loving relationship - when it becomes public - produces psychological benefits for the female loving partner that go beyond the effects of releasing the tensions of a secret relationship is the thesis defended in this essay. The existence of a reflection on the same loving relationship, integral part of the process of personal maturity, is the main conclusion of the article. The speeches also unveiled other postures among the interviewed people: what is more significantly understood as love involves, basically, eros and philia; love is communication; the sense of humor and playing are essential to a significant loving relationship and this requires acting according to the true self.
love; male-female relations; creativity; donald woods winnicott