Open-access Parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals: a systematic review

SUMMARY

OBJECTIVE:  This systematic review aims to analyze the parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals.

METHODS:  The review was carried out between February and June 2020 and used key words about LGBT+ and/or parenthood, including, “lesbian and mother,” “lesbian and parenthood,” “gay and father,” “gay and parenthood,” and “trans and parenthood,” which were published in databases, such as PubMed, Google Academic, Wiley Online Library, and ScienceDirect.

RESULTS:  We reviewed 19 research articles, and the majority of these articles suggested that LGBT+s faced negative reactions and discrimination when they decided to become parents. Once they became parents, the relationship of most of the LGBT+ individuals with their partners and the surrounding social environment improved and social support for and self-esteem of the LGBT+ individuals increased.

CONCLUSIONS:  Compared to the heterosexual parents, LGBT+ individuals faced with various problems in their social, family, and professional lives during parenthood. Therefore, they need more family, legal, and social support.

KEYWORDS: Homosexuality; Parents; Sexual and gender minorities; Social support

INTRODUCTION

The concept of LGBT+ gained importance as a result of the struggles of people with different sexual identities for their rights. The concept refers to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, intersexual, and queer individuals1. As such, sexual orientations of not only heterosexual but also of homosexual and bisexual people are defined2. Given that all individuals have the right to sexual and reproductive health, we may suggest that LGBT+ individuals have the right to parenthood and have children3.

Individuals with different sexual orientations have different methods to become parents, including egg and sperm donation, surrogate motherhood, and assisted reproductive techniques46. Besides, LGBT+ individuals may adopt children, which is a widely recognized method of parenthood.

The review of the literature on the comparison of the experiences of LGBT+ parents with their heterosexual counterparts showed conflicting findings. Some of the studies found that LGBT+ parents raised happier children and spent more time to raise their children, independent of gender roles and rules6. However, the review by Carneiro et al. (2017) reported no difference between the experiences of gay and heterosexual fathers in terms of involvement in their children’s activities, level of intimacy, parenting problem-solving, and time spent with their children7. Other studies also dealt with childbearing problems in nontraditional societies, including social exclusion of the children, homophobia, and the absence of family support and legal protection8,9.

Despite the existence of systematic reviews on the parenthood experiences of individuals with different sexual orientations in the literature, we have not found any studies that dealt with the parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals7,10. We believe that reviewing the difficulties that LGBT+ individuals experience during parenthood may help policy makers, civil society groups, and health professionals that provide care to these people, including nurses, physicians, and social service experts.

Aim

This systematic review aims to analyze the parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals. The research questions include the following:

  • What are the sociodemographic characteristics of LGBT+ individuals?

  • What are the positive parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals?

  • What are the negative parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals?

METHODS

Design

This systematic review used PRISMA (Preferred Reporting Items for Systematic Reviews and Meta-Analyses) to prepare the protocol and report the article. PRISMA statement may be accessed via http://prisma-statement.org/.

Data sources and search strategy

We conducted this systematic review between February and June 2020 and reviewed scientific articles in English version which were published in different databases (e.g., PubMed, Google Academic, Wiley Online Library, Taylor and Francis Online, and ScienceDirect). We used the key words about LGBT+ and/or parenthood, including “lesbian and mother,” “lesbian and parenthood,” “gay and father,” “gay and parenthood,” “trans and parenthood,” “LGBT+ and parent,” “LGBT+ and parenthood,” “LGBT+ parent,” and “adoption parenthood experience.” We used the words “and” and “or” to search key words.

Study selection

We analyzed the qualitative, quantitative, and mixed-design studies on parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals that were published in English until June 2020.

Inclusion criteria

  • Studies on LGBT+ individuals that had parenthood experience and lived with their children.

  • Research articles that were published in English.

Exclusion criteria

  • Articles on the intentions and motivations of LGBT+ individuals.

  • Articles on the relations between LGBT+ individuals and their parents.

  • Articles on the opinions of health professionals on the parenthood of LGBT+ individuals were excluded from the systematic review.

Methodological quality assessment

Quality assessment of the reviewed articles was independently conducted by two researchers. We used 12 criteria proposed by Polit and Beck (2009) to evaluate the quality of evidences. The two researchers independently scored 1 that met the criteria and 0 for the studies that did not meet the criteria11. Coherence between the researchers was assessed by using Cohen’s kappa (κ), where the values of 0.41–0.60, 0.61–0.80, and 0.80–1.00 referred to moderate, substantial, and almost perfect agreement, respectively12. Kappa (κ) in our study was 0.54, indicating moderate agreement.

RESULTS

Study design and sample characteristics

We reviewed 4 quantitative, 14 qualitative, and 1 mixed-design scientific studies. Parenthood experiences of five gay, five lesbian, one transsexual, and eight LGBT+ people were included in our systematic review.

Demographic characteristics

Age of the participants who were included in our systematic review ranged between 22 and 59 years, and the majority of the participants were above the age of 40. Most of the participants had postgraduation degree. Besides, the majority of the participants had high-income levels (Table 1).

Table 1
Studies on parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals.

Parenthood experiences

This study reviewed positive and negative parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals and their parenthood processes (Table 1).

Positive experiences

Primary studies on LGBT+ parents found that parenthood was more important than work life and careers of LGBT+ individuals19 and that the relationship with their partners9 and families7 and the levels of self-esteem and social support increased after parenthood7. Besides, these parents perceived themselves as more important in the society and stated that legal processes on adoption made their work easier20 (Table 1).

Negative experiences

Although participants in some of the studies expressed that the society was more tolerant of LGBT+ parents, the majority of studies reported that social discrimination continued even after parenthood7,11,2125.

Problems of LGBT+ individuals in work life included precariousness, discrimination, and being unable to benefit from the rights of heterosexual employees, such as maternity and paternity leave, breastfeeding leave, unpaid leave, or flexibility in working hours7,19,21.

DISCUSSION

This study, which reviewed positive and negative parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals, analyzed 19 qualitative and quantitative research articles. Findings of these studies on sociodemographic characteristics of the participants and their negative and positive experiences are discussed below.

Demographic characteristics

Marriage is an affirmative action to raise children. Although current average age for marriage and having the first children for heterosexual parents ranges from 30 to 35 years, it is mostly higher for LGBT+ individuals13,14. This delay is primarily related to the fact that it takes a longer period for LGBT+ individuals to make themselves accepted, have a profession, and reach their career goals, compared to their heterosexual counterparts15,16. This situation is positively considered in the literature since it prevents adolescent pregnancies, which have a negative impact on the health status of mother and children. Besides, our review revealed that education and income status of the LGBT+ individuals were higher than their heterosexual counterparts. This finding may be explained with reference to the need for higher economic status in order to be an LGBT+ parent15,17,18.

Parenthood experiences

Positive experiences

Best parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals include acceptance by their families and the society that they live in and increase in their self-esteem4,15,16. As such, their identity as parent may be accepted by the society irrespective of their sexual identities19. Besides, various studies noted that same-sex parents had better social relations with their co-workers after the transition to parenthood4,15,16,20,21.

Studies on lesbian mother families found that exhaustion and parental stress were lower for these families since parental responsibilities were equally shared6,16. This positive effect was evident in other studies that compared lesbian mother families with gay, bisexual, and heterosexual parent families18,2224. This finding may be explained with reference to the absence of heteronormative codes in lesbian mother families.

Some of the studies on LGBT+ parents focused on the relationship between children and their parents and found that the LGBT+ parents, who spent more time on their children, considered their children a source of joy and the center of their lives20,25. Our review also found that social lesbian mothers felt the need to express the quality of their parenthood compared to their heterosexual male counterparts22. This finding may be related to the intention to overcome social prejudice and the need for self-expression.

Most of the LGBT+ individuals reviewed in our study considered parenthood a positive experience. Adopted same-sex parents used adoption agencies, friends, adoption books, and health professionals as sources of counseling and information and believed that the counseling and information services were sufficient26,27. Today, LGBT+ individuals do not have the right to marriage in most of the countries28. However, satisfaction of the same-sex parents with the recognition of the right to marriage and parenthood in some of the countries may be considered a positive dimension of this study.

Negative experiences

This review found that same-sex parents in various studies faced with various negative reactions due to their sexual identities when they decided to become parents5,15,19. Primary studies noted that parenthood of LGBT+ individuals was socially questioned, homophobia was common in their family and social environment, and LGBT+ individuals were under the pressure to form healthy parent-child relationship7,15,2932. These studies also found that heterosexual parents suffered from problems, such as fatigue, lack of sleep, social isolation, and inability to balance work and family lives7,15,29.

In addition to these negative experiences, LGBT+ individuals opted for costly assisted reproductive techniques compared to their heterosexual counterparts46. This situation, coupled with the increase in the costs, resulted with financial difficulties. In some cases, one of the same-sex parents left their job to care for the child, which, in turn, forced the other parent to seek for additional employment5,15.

Child adoption is one of the most common methods of parenthood among the LGBT+ individuals33. Individuals who chose adoption as a way to become parents mostly suffered from legal problems, including procedures on adoption and legal recognition34,35. However, participants in the study by Ryan and Whitlock (2008) did not express any problems during the transition to parenthood27. These differences are closely related to the variety of legal regulations on parenthood of same-sex couples across the countries, even the states of same countries27.

Implication of practice

This review may raise social awareness on parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals and provide the basis to solve their negative parenthood experiences. Besides, it may be guiding for health professionals, civil society organizations, legislators, and policy makers.

Strength and limitations

The review of the studies on the parenthood experiences of LGBT+ individuals reveals the existence of different studies for each groups7,10. The strength of our study is related to the fact that it systematically analyzed the parenthood experiences of all same-sex couples under the banner of LGBT+. Methodological dimensions and analysis methods of the studies reviewed within the scope of this research constitute both the strength and the limitation of this research.

Given the fact that most of the studies were conducted in the United States, a country that had higher income and education levels, the findings of this research may not be generalizable.

CONCLUSIONS

Although LGBT+ individuals are prone to discrimination due to their sexual identities, social acceptance increases after their transition to parenthood, which has a positive impact on their mental wellbeing. Once they become parents, LGBT+ individuals suffer from various difficulties, including financial problems and the burden of care.

  • Funding: none.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Our article was edited by Academic Studies Department of SPOD, which struggles to reduce the oppression, violence, and discrimination suffered by LGBTI+s. We would like to thank all SPOD members, especially Sevcan Tiftik, for their valuable contributions (http://www.spod.org.tr/EN/Pages/1/About%20Us).

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Publication Dates

  • Publication in this collection
    25 May 2022
  • Date of issue
    Apr 2022

History

  • Received
    03 Feb 2022
  • Accepted
    08 Feb 2022
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